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questions on how to deal with personality clashes? Here's
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My Roommate Is Driving Me Crazy!
How do I ask my roommate to change things that I find annoying?
See page 74
What do I say if my roommate responds by attacking me?
See page 75
Q: Everything about my roommate bugs me, what
do I do?
See page 77
With Your Total Opposite
Are you living
with your total opposite? It's amazing how different
two people sharing the same (tiny) room can be.
Even the littlest things can drive us crazy after
awhile! You eat Big Macs and chicken wings while
your roommate swears by tofu and beans; you like
Coldplay and your roommate cranks up Tim McGraw.
You're East Coast; your roommate is West Coast.
Whatever your differences (and there are bound to
be a few), you need to figure out what you're willing
to live with and what's fair to ask your roommate
Your roommate may have an accent
that grates on your nerves, but that's not something
you can ask a person to change. It's also not fair
to expect someone to change his entire personality
to suit you. It would be great if we could snap
our fingers, and BAM, instant personality makeover!
Not gonna happen. So, you need to separate personality
traits from irritating habits. You won't transform
your roommate into your new best friend, but you
can make things a lot more bearable. Here
are a few ideas:
something's bugging you, bring it up in a non-defensive
way rather than assume your roommate can read
your mind. Nothing can change unless you
acknowledge it. It's possible that your
roommate may not even be aware of the problem.
on behavior, not personality .
It's not reasonable to ask people to change
who they are, but you can ask them to tone down
how they express themselves, especially when it's
invading your turf. So, you can't criticize
someone for being "perky," but you can ask for
someone not to talk so much while you're studying.
It's not your job to fix anybody else, and it
helps to recognize that no one is perfect.
Be willing to look at your own behavior.
Consider what you could do differently to help
the situation instead of only blaming your roommate.
with one pet peeve .
What can you absolutely not deal with?
What do you find extremely irritating, but could
live with if you had to? There are probably tons
of things your roommate does that get on your
nerves. But nothing kills a relationship faster
than listing dozens of reasons why you don't like
a person. Instead, both of you need to
list your number one pet peeve and focus your
energy on solving that first.
the positives .
Before you decide that life would be better
with a roommate exactly like you, think of what
you could gain by living with your opposite. We're
often attracted to people who are different from
us because they represent qualities we wish we
possessed. If you're shy, maybe being around a
more outgoing person will force you out of your
shell. When one person's strength makes up for
the other's weakness, being opposites is an advantage.